Recently I attended a conference for women in the IT industry.
In my (skeptical) colleague’s words, it was like a women-shall-rule-the-universe gathering. Except it wasn’t.
Just shortly before that, the first female referee took the lead in a Bundesliga match, which made me extremely proud. I felt the significance of this monumental event was a little like having a first female president.
And I do have our (first) female president in my home country, and a female chancellor in my residential country.
So are women ruling the world?
Probably not. The world isn’t quite ready for this amount of female leaders yet. But whose fault is it, really?
I’m inclined to think that us women have it too hard on ourselves. Men are generally innocent. But women – we put these double standards on ourselves.
We judge when a mum goes to work while the child is young. We judge when our sons marry a girl who can’t cook. We judge when our female colleagues fail to stand up for themselves in a male-dominated arena.
But it’s up to us to change this.
I think in our current state of feminism, we may be overdoing it. We may be trying to become men, rather than embrace our strengths.
We forget that the stroke and elegance of a ballerina is sign of strength and control. We forget that our emotional intelligence leads us in the right way in crises. We forget that we can be pretty damn smart, without having to try to prove ourselves all the time.
So women, what I’m trying to say is: Believe in your strengths. They don’t have to look like men’s strengths and it’s also okay!
And stop judging other women.