I had an interesting conversation with a colleague yesterday. We talked about friendships.
And she said, you know what? People like to say good friends are there for the bad times. But that's bullshit.
It's way too easy to have to be a listening ear and comfort someone by saying things will get better, this too shall pass, he doesn't deserve you.
But the true friends are the ones who are there for your good times – because they are the ones who feel happy for you.
That couldn't be better said.
When was the last time you put aside anything you're dealing with to share the joy and excitement your friend is going through?
I've exciting/scary news at the moment, (and I would share it in due time) but the reactions I got so far has made it way too easy to evaluate who gives a damn.
Some empathize with your anxiety and share your joy, while other only react to the news they want to hear, and prefer to speak about themselves instead.
I have a theory based on a scale of acquaintance to good friends.
- Acquaintances are there for the good times; they pop up to congratulate you in good times despite having not spoken to you in years.
- Friends are there for the bad times because they can still be assed enough to ensure you feel a little better.
- Good friends are there for the bad, and most wonderfully, for the good.