I’ve learnt so much since being a mum. If I were ever to have a second child, I would like me to read this through again.
Dear future mum,
You may think now that pregnancy is a huge feat. And it is. Your body is amazing at keeping your little one safe and warm.
Then comes labour. That’s huge too. And a whole lot of pain. But it’s suddenly over. You think you would’ve claimed your body back. But you don’t.
All of a sudden you and your baby are separated, but you’re still one. Your baby needs you all the time, and you might be feeling like a frustrated cow. Your boobs will hurt and you can’t wait for your pelvic floor to be strong again. You constantly need to sit or lie around as the baby feeds or sleeps. But enjoy it, before the moment becomes a fleeting memory.
You may start to get frustrated with your baby’s sleep. You wonder why you can’t leave your baby in bed. Or why it can’t put itself to sleep. Or why it can’t sleep for longer periods at a go. You start reading up tips and tricks and consider sleep training. At some point you give up and give in. There it is – welcome to motherhood.
Someone once told me, he reduced his working hours to spend with his child, for he did not wish for a child just to put it away.
If I’ve learnt something from the past 7 months, it’s definitely learning to accept that life has changed, my sleep has changed, my thoughts and focus have changed, and I just need to go with the flow.
And it does get better. My little one slept in the stroller. Then he hated it for a few months. After which he accepted it again.
He hated being on his tummy. Then he tolerated it when he could watch other babies. Now he hates it again and would much rather crawl. 🙂
He would sleep lying in his bed. Then he couldn’t leave our arms anymore because he would wake whenever we lowered him. And now he falls into deep sleep quicker so we can place him down again.
I went crazy the first couple of months thinking my baby doesn’t smile much, and doesn’t laugh much, nor does he get ticklish. How frustrating as a mother! And now he smiles at me often, and I try to do something funny daily which makes him laugh.
It’s all a phase. Stop worrying about the thousand things you’ve to do and watch your kid grown Go with the flow, and follow your instincts. Or the dad’s instincts – he could be pretty good too!
Love,
New-ish mum