Last Friday night, I did a crazy thing.
No, it was neither drinks, drugs nor a boy.
I met up with a friend from Primary School, as well as two of our teachers. The friend, J, was my best friend when we were 12 – we were inseparable. Since we left Primary School, we drifted in and out of contact but we’ve been increasingly in touch in the last few years. I visited her in the UK while she was doing her degree, and S and I met up with her in Berlin last year. So it wasn’t that crazy that we met up. She’s going into the education career so it was highly apt that we had this reunion with two of our favourite teachers.
That was the crazy part. I haven’t met Mr. P since I left when I was 12. No – maybe I did when I was 13 and 14. We had a craze of returning to our old schools on teacher’s day just to say hi. But never again. He was my discipline master and I was a prefect for a brief year, so that wasn’t a bad thing that he was a discipline master. He was also my science teacher. We respected him because he knew how to keep order and still be nice.
Ms. L was my favourite English teacher. To me, she was young, hip and cool. She made us write journals (what do ya know, I’m still writing today!) to help us think easily in English, and I took on that task very seriously. While others wrote large legible letters to tell her that they breathed the air, had breakfast, went to school and did their homework, I enjoyed writing about my (then) obsession with the boyband, a1, and how much I loved listening to the radio, calling in, etc.
As I was hesitant to crash their dinner reunion, I hadn’t known what to expect but S encouraged me to do it since he meets up with his favourite teacher from school about once in two years near Christmas. Apparently his teacher taught him gardening, and S is (still) infatuated with gardening. (S looks 20something but is 70 at heart.)
And I’m glad I did. I was first utterly shocked and impressed that both of them looked exactly the same as I remembered from when I was 12. Neither of them looked much older. I would’ve guessed a maximum of 5 years passed by. (It’s been 12 years.) They were still approachable, fatherly and motherly respectively, extremely nurturing and caring as before.
12 years ago, neither of them were parents. Now each have 3 kids, and one is the teacher of the other’s kid. Having dinner with them was also an eye-opener, as I now see them as people with a teaching profession, rather than who were gonna watch my grades and put me in place. They shared tips with J on survival and some rites of passage every new teacher will go through.
Ms. L shared her frustrations with us on the current generation of kids. In particular for one class that she was teaching, the kids are bold and disrespectful, thinking that it’s cool to know words related to sex, etc. I’ve never imagined how tough it would be as a teacher to have to address such concerns. Furthermore, they are sensitive and constantly think they’re being picked on. Whereas for my classmates, we would watch her flare up and later still tell her that we love her. (We do!)
Mr. P shared his worries about him and his son drifting apart. I explained that my brother also went through the same phase, thinking that it ain’t cool to be with your parents. He is such a dedicated dad that he disappeared once during dinner to check on his family who were in the same mall as us. Then his kids later popped by to shyly say hi and tell him that they were leaving. To their shy actions, he said, “This is not like them.” 😀
What I thought would be an awkward dinner turned out to be a night to remember, and we ended up chatting for hours. It’s both humbling and impressive to know that the people who saw me grow up are still amazing nurturers to others today.
If my kids grow up here, I will most certainly make sure they end up in that primary school that watched me grow.